Tips for a long-distance relationship
So you met her, the woman of your dreams. You’re convinced that there is nothing in the world that could possibly separate you from her.
And then you find out she doesn’t live in your town and it’s going to take months before you can make plans to live closer to each other.
Long-distance relationships (LDRs) aren’t easy.
Many relationships have been wrecked by the physical distance between lovers, no matter how close they were emotionally.
That’s not to say that LDRs can’t work. Far from it.
Here are some useful tips to help you make yours a resounding success.
Establish the ground rules
First things first. An LDR is only going to work if both partners are on the same page when it comes to what is expected and acceptable behaviour – what’s “on” and what’s “not on”. How often are you going to see each other? How often will you phone each other? Are you going to have an exclusive, monogamous relationship or is it ok to “see” other people? And what exactly does that mean?
Communicate, communicate, communicate
Good communication is the basis for any successful relationship, especially for a long-distance one. Communicating regularly – ideally every day – is absolutely crucial if you want to ensure that you keep in touch properly.
Make sure you talk to her honestly and openly and be sure to share your feelings with her. Yes, many guys find this hard, but it’s essential for maintaining intimacy.
Talk about your future together and make joint plans. Always be supportive, patient and understanding.
Send her gifts
Sending her thoughtful presents on a regular basis – without becoming predictable! – will earn you a mountain of Brownie points. Choose things she loves and things that will make her think of you.
Work on building an honest, open and trustful relationship. It’s the only way you won’t end up second-guessing each other or jumping to unwarranted conclusions about the things that are happening in your respective lives. Trust her decisions and choices and resist the temptation to try to control her from afar. Jealousy is one of the biggest LDR killers!
Spice up your long-distance love life
Ever tried phone sex? Now’s the time! It’s not for everyone, but you might just both get a real kick out of it. Start slowly and gently and see where it leads you.
Get together as often as you can
No matter how often you speak on the phone, in the long run no romantic relationship can survive without physical closeness and intimacy. You should plan to meet each other in person as frequently as is practically and financially possible.