Be the best husband
I came home late from work earlier this week and before doing anything else I popped into the bedroom to check on my fiancée. She was fast asleep, looking peaceful and happy.
I stood there watching for a few minutes (not in that creepy “hover in the shadows” way that Edward always does to Bella) and wondered how I was going to keep that smile on her face for the rest of our lives, how will I be able to be the best husband?
In that simple quiet moment all the thoughts and anxieties that had never crossed my mind came rushing towards me like a tidal wave of exam questions from a belligerent school teacher.
It’s a scary thought. We enter into these things with gushing vows of devotion and dedication.
In the heat of the matrimonial moment no mountain is too high, no valley too deep and no obstacle too large to overcome.
The pressure is there to be all that you can be forever. On the wedding day it’s about emotions and grand gestures. But that’s not sustainable.
I want to be that “best” man, I want to keep that sleepy, slightly goofy grin that she gets after just falling asleep on her face forever. Standing over her, just enjoying how she slept so peacefully, the magnitude of the situation finally hit me. But then that’s the challenge, isn’t it.
Marriage isn’t for everyone, and it certainly wasn’t for me until I met Robyn. I’d always laughed it off as an unnecessary transaction in a world already cluttered with archaic formalities.
Who needs a ceremony and a piece of paper to signal their love and commitment to one and other. Who needs the hassle of a formal arrangement and speeches about love and happiness. Well, it’s easy to think like that until you meet the person who makes sense of it all.
Standing in that doorway, as the wave of visions of our future crashed into the cliff face of my mind, I realised for the first time that I wanted to be the best husband.
And that’s a good place to start. Knowing deep down inside that you want to keep someone smiling is half the battle won. It’s a moment I’ll recall and look back on for inspiration for the rest of my life.
It was no flashy, romantic occasion between the two of us. It was no memorable hot air balloon trip across the Serengeti. It was no emotional crisis that we had to overcome to prove our love for each other. It was simply a quiet, honest instant where I saw what true happiness is, where I realised that these are the moments that make a marriage work, where you come and look at the one you love and realise that all you want to do is be a better man every day of your life.
Source: David Moseley